The Kink Collective Blog

Hello again, and welcome back to this space where we talk about the real, human parts of connection and exploration.

 

Last time, we built a foundation of external safety, the kind we co-create with others through communication, care, and respect. Today, let’s turn the lens gently inward, to a pl...

Welcome back. We've been talking a lot about building a foundation, first for safety with others, then for a kind, curious relationship with yourself. Today, let’s talk about a wonderful tool that lives beautifully at the intersection of both: the Yes/No/Maybe list.

You might have seen one: a lengthy...

Cat and I met at turbulent times in our lives. 

She had just lost her husband & I was coming out of a failing relationship while struggling to find myself and my purpose. When our paths crossed, we found support and the drive to help each other move forward. Professionally, I was a full...

Welcome, and we're so glad you’re here. Whether you’re newly curious about exploring kink or you’ve been in the community for years, there’s a word we all hear constantly: safety. It’s a buzzword, a checkbox, a well-intentioned mantra. But when you scratch the surface, what does it actually mea...

Trauma. This is a popular topic these days. And thank God (or Universe, Spirit, Divine Presence). Trauma has affected most people in some way. It certainly has been a thread in my life, one that has been the source of pain and fear. Unrecognized trauma has driven my behavior and relationships, both ...

I have just begun my 29th year of sobriety.

Last post, I made reference to my “white light” experience, which I will talk about here.

During the time coming up to November 16, 1993, my life was falling apart. I was married to a man, had fallen in love with woman, and had moved out of my house. I asked...

It’s been a while since I’ve written. My sobriety birthday is approaching (that’s what they call it on the West Coast – its anniversary here on the East Coast – I spent the first 17 years of my sobriety in California). This time of year always makes me reflect on what it was like. Also what happened...

Greetings. Let me start by saying that I have been sober from alcohol and most mood and mind altering substances since November of 1993. There are a couple of qualifiers to that statement…I drink coffee almost every day. I have been on various pharmaceuticals for the treatment of depression and anxi...