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Joshua's Story

14.01.26 12:38 PM - By web.ssdce - Comment(s)
Joshua's Story

Cat and I met at turbulent times in our lives. 

She had just lost her husband & I was coming out of a failing relationship while struggling to find myself and my purpose. When our paths crossed, we found support and the drive to help each other move forward. Professionally, I was a full...

People Before Kink: What Safety Actually Means (And What It Doesn't)

14.01.26 12:37 PM - By web.ssdce - Comment(s)
People Before Kink: What Safety Actually Means (And What It Doesn't)

Welcome, and we're so glad you’re here. Whether you’re newly curious about exploring kink or you’ve been in the community for years, there’s a word we all hear constantly: safety. It’s a buzzword, a checkbox, a well-intentioned mantra. But when you scratch the surface, what does it actually mea...

Art Gallery Show Review

31.07.24 09:33 AM - By web.ssdce - Comment(s)
Art Gallery Show Review
Event Review and Press Release: Meta Betties Gallery Art Exhibit – An Afternoon to Remember

On Saturday, 7/28, The Meta Betties Gallery hosted a truly memorable art exhibit that saw a remarkable turnout. The evening was filled with captivating demonstrations, meaningful discussions, illuminating Q...

Discovery of CPTSD

09.05.23 09:33 PM - By web.ssdce - Comment(s)
Discovery of CPTSD

Trauma. This is a popular topic these days. And thank God (or Universe, Spirit, Divine Presence). Trauma has affected most people in some way. It certainly has been a thread in my life, one that has been the source of pain and fear. Unrecognized trauma has driven my behavior and relationships, both ...

Recovery #3 – White Light Experience

27.10.22 07:51 PM - By web.ssdce - Comment(s)

I have just begun my 29th year of sobriety.

Last post, I made reference to my “white light” experience, which I will talk about here.

During the time coming up to November 16, 1993, my life was falling apart. I was married to a man, had fallen in love with woman, and had moved out of my house. I asked...

Cat's Story

27.10.22 07:51 PM - By web.ssdce - Comment(s)
Cat's Story


Some years ago, in the midst of life’s turbulence, Joshua and I discovered a refuge in each other’s presence. Our individual paths were riddled with challenges – I was grappling with the painful loss of my husband to cancer, while Joshua was healing from a heart-wrenching breakup. Amidst these pers...

Recovery #2 – A “High Bottom” Drunk

27.10.22 07:50 PM - By web.ssdce - Comment(s)

It’s been a while since I’ve written. My sobriety birthday is approaching (that’s what they call it on the West Coast – its anniversary here on the East Coast – I spent the first 17 years of my sobriety in California). This time of year always makes me reflect on what it was like. Also what happened...

Recovery #1 – In the Beginning

27.10.22 07:48 PM - By web.ssdce - Comment(s)

Greetings. Let me start by saying that I have been sober from alcohol and most mood and mind altering substances since November of 1993. There are a couple of qualifiers to that statement…I drink coffee almost every day. I have been on various pharmaceuticals for the treatment of depression and anxi...

Trauma #2 – Fight, Flight, Freeze or Fawn

27.10.22 07:48 PM - By web.ssdce - Comment(s)

Last time we talked a little bit about what trauma is and how we can recognize its effects. Once I understood this CPTSD condition, and it explained a lot of what I had been suffering from, I had a basis from which to start research. There are people out there who have done work with this – books ha...

Trauma #1 – Discovery of CPTSD

27.10.22 07:35 AM - By web.ssdce - Comment(s)
Trauma. This is a popular topic these days. And thank God (or Universe, Spirit, Divine Presence). Trauma has affected most people in some way. It certainly has been a thread in my life, one that has been the source of pain and fear. Unrecognized trauma has driven my behavior and relationships, both ...