Blog categorized as Safety

Why Curiosity is not Consent: Rethinking Desire in a Shame-Free Way

19.01.26 03:15 PM - By web.ssdce - Comment(s)
Why Curiosity is not Consent: Rethinking Desire in a Shame-Free Way

Hello again, and welcome back to this space where we talk about the real, human parts of connection and exploration.
 
Last time, we built a foundation of external safety, the kind we co-create with others through communication, care, and respect. Today, let’s turn the lens gently inward, to a pl...

The Yes/No/Maybe List Isn't a Contract, It's a Conversation

19.01.26 03:15 PM - By web.ssdce - Comment(s)
The Yes/No/Maybe List Isn't a Contract, It's a Conversation

Welcome back. We've been talking a lot about building a foundation, first for safety with others, then for a kind, curious relationship with yourself. Today, let’s talk about a wonderful tool that lives beautifully at the intersection of both: the Yes/No/Maybe list.

You might have seen one: a lengthy...

People Before Kink: What Safety Actually Means (And What It Doesn't)

14.01.26 12:37 PM - By web.ssdce - Comment(s)
People Before Kink: What Safety Actually Means (And What It Doesn't)

Welcome, and we're so glad you’re here. Whether you’re newly curious about exploring kink or you’ve been in the community for years, there’s a word we all hear constantly: safety. It’s a buzzword, a checkbox, a well-intentioned mantra. But when you scratch the surface, what does it actually mea...