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The Kink Collective


Here are the co-founders of the Kink Collective, get to know the brilliant minds behind the organization. Meet our dedicated founders, whose passion and expertise have driven Kink Collective's success. Learn more about their backgrounds, achievements, and the vision they share for making a positive impact in our community.

Cat Orme

Cat is a transformative leader in the kink, BDSM, and leather communities, with 30+ years of experience, mentorship and advocacy. Alongside partners Joshua and Natalie, she earned the 2025 Northeast Power Exchange Educational Title, celebrating her innovative approach to power dynamics as a tool for empowerment. 

Her journey began in San Francisco’s leather scene, where early mentorship ignited her passion for community building and personal growth. As co-founder of theKink Collective, educator, and counselor, she bridges kink with personal development, healing around trauma and grief, and sexual wellness. 

Rooted in honesty, integrity, and transparency, Cat creates spaces where people are seen, valued, and empowered—whether exploring identity, grief, recovery or desire. Her work proves that profound healing happens when we dare to own our stories.

Joshua Rodriguez

Joshua is a facilitator, educator, and advocate empowering individuals through self-discovery and intentional relationships. With 15+ years of experience, he guides people—especially men—in navigating modern masculinity, sexuality, and personal growth. 

As co-founder of the Kink Collective with his partner Cat, he designs programming that fosters confidence and authentic connection. In 2025, their work with partner Mistress Natalie earned them the Northeast Power Exchange Educational Title, honoring their innovative use of power dynamics for empowerment. 

Based in East Harlem, Joshua curates transformative experiences at The Sanctuary, a community space in his childhood neighborhood dedicated to identity, relationships, and conscious evolution. Their philosophy, “People Before Kink” drives his mission: equipping individuals with the tools to build self-authored, fulfilling lives.




Here are some of the amazing people who are the heart of the Kink Collective. Get to know the brilliant minds behind our organization. Meet our dedicated facilitators, whose passion and expertise have driven Kink Collective's success. Learn more about their backgrounds, achievements, and the vision they share for making a positive impact in our community.

Sir Tom

Tom has been a member of the BDSM/Kink community for over 20 years. He has experienced both sides of the power dynamic and has come to understand the importance of education, training and mentorship. 


He is a proud member of the Kink Collective and was a member of GMSMA, a BDSM organization that focused on education and community. 


Tom has participated in numerous educational events and conferences and has recently been both an online and in-person presenter at Kink Odyssey, a BDSM education workshop held at Eason Mountain.


He also mentors several members of the leather community.

Sir Wren

Sir Wren’s, Lord Wyvern of  Wyvern House, passion is facilitating male identified individuals to move beyond societal bindings to reach a state of healthy masculine expression.  


Sir Wren garners inspiration from multiple traditions and trainings to facilitate individuals to reach greater heights of personal growth and understanding.  


Inspiration for classes, workshops and sessions are influenced by Leather/BDSM culture, Martial Arts, somatic body work, Tantra, breathwork, many years of Runic study, Reiki energy practices, fire walk training, earth-based traditions including Celtic, Norse/Viking, West African, Mayan and more. 


Wren is a Pagan High Priest having graduated seminary training with the Temple of Witchcraft.  Being a queer, pansexual, transgendered man it is very important to create open & safe environments for clients and students regardless of sexual orientation, lifestyle, gender identity, or gender expression.


Wren is available to speak on or facilitate workshops on any of the above in a class or private environment setting. 

Dan

Dan’s growth into authentic self-expression was shaped through the Kink Collective. After moving from Maine to NYC in August 2024, he experienced a profound personal transformation through the Collective’s programs, mentorship, and kink practices—using them as tools for introspection, healing, and growth. What began as a quiet, isolated life evolved into one rooted in confidence, authenticity, connection, and intention. Through the mentorship program, weekend intensives and ongoing practice, Dan has developed a grounded, intentional approach to consensual kink, prioritizing presence, energy exchange, and holding space for others while sharing skills through demonstrations and guided experiences.

Dan creates safe, intentional spaces where people can show up fully as themselves.  Free from judgment, fear & self-censorship. He also creates spaces for Men to explore kink and erotic connection with confidence, connection, and care. 

Natalie

Natalie is the Organizational Manager for The Kink Collective, where she fuels the mission of “People Before Kink” through strategic communication and community leadership. A 2025 Northeast Regional Power Exchange titleholder, she works alongside founders Cat and Joshua to promote intentional exploration of sexuality and BDSM education worldwide.

Professionally, she amplifies the collective's voice through dynamic social media content, event promotion, and ensuring every message is both approachable and community-centered. As a Pro-Domme and aspiring educator, Natalie combines integrity, clear communication, and confident leadership to expand the collective's reach while cultivating her own powerful footprint in the lifestyle.


Testimonials

Paul

I entered the mentorship program because I was unsure of my place in the leather community and had been making harmful choices. I needed help to figure out if I was kinky or just needy, to understand if kink was my only way to find connection and to clarify my role as a submissive. I’ve learned so much about Dom/sub roles, power exchange, and what I want and need in a Dom. This program has also helped me recognize the errors I made as a sub and understand why things were not working. Although I’m happy with my progress, I am eager to learn even more.

Lansing, Michigan

Lace

I decided to join the mentorship program because I resonated deeply with the Kink Collective owners' approach to engagement, which spoke to my spirit and essence. Their program felt like a natural progression in my ongoing inner work. Initially, I didn’t believe I had a specific issue, but through the program, I’ve gained the vocabulary and understanding needed to recognize my self-worth. It's been instrumental in building my confidence while maintaining humility and gratitude. I’m learning to articulate and confidently speak about what I always knew but didn’t know the words for. In progress, I’ve noticed a significant change in how I interact with others and myself, allowing for more grace. I've become more confident and no longer feel like the 'odd one out.' Cat and Joshua's support and celebration of our victories have been invaluable. Our group is merging in spirit, creating a more profound and vital community foundation. I eagerly anticipate our future together.

Queens, New York

Earline

I joined the mentorship program because I was drawn to the idea of 'people before kink' that I saw in other workshops and intensives. I wanted the time dedicated to exploring how these tools for connection apply to various aspects of my life. Coming from the fringes of the community, the topics of dominance, submission, and personal vetting truly intrigued me. Before the program, I struggled with trusting myself, especially in sexual situations. This mentorship has allowed me to explore these issues both sexually and non-sexually. I've made progress in trusting myself more and blending that trust into other areas of my life. I began to trust my dominance more, realizing that my fear of hurting others was unfounded and rooted in misunderstanding my instincts. Furthermore, the program has created a space for me to work on my insecurities regarding submission, a topic I had previously avoided discussing.

Queens, New York

Madeline

I joined the mentorship program because I trusted Cat and Joshua and knew I needed to learn more about BDSM and leather. After hearing them speak about it, I was sure I needed this. They make me feel safe, and the people they engage with make me feel safe. I wanted to address a knowledge gap and find my place in BDSM and leather, seeking genuine connection rather than random intimacy. Walking into the program, I aimed to gain self-knowledge and confidence, but I also found a much-needed connection I didn’t know I was missing. This program has taught me about self-knowledge, confidence, and people-pleasing and helped me tackle difficult questions in a supportive environment. In terms of progress, it's like a logarithmic scale. Building trust and laying foundational knowledge was essential, and delving into D/s dynamics opened up complex issues that needed addressing. Discussing these questions in scheduled sessions with trusted people provides the support I need. Although I’m still processing a lot, having multiple trusted people to talk to is significant progress. Now, I’m figuring out the questions I want to ask and continuing my journey.

Harlem, New York

Chris

I decided to join the mentorship program because, as someone early in their kink journey and venturing solo into unfamiliar territory, I believed the experience would be richer, safer, and more illuminating with trusted guidance from people who had already provided excellent education and avenues for discovery. I sought trusted guidance to explore facets of myself that were crystallizing into a more authentic self, aspects of which were previously unknown to me. Additionally, as a neurodivergent person struggling with connecting with others and reading social cues, I aimed to mature my capacity to make connections, find community among peers, and become more comfortable with communication. Through the mentorship program, I now feel much more informed and confident in navigating kink spaces and expressing my desires, interests, and concerns. I've also gained assurance in fostering connections and socializing, both within and outside the scene.

White Plains, New York