MITPISA is a form developed to make any kind of scene negotiation easier and ensure that safety issues are addressed. We recommend using this form when negotiating pick up play, or before the execution of any scene, even one that was more thoroughly negotiated at some time earlier than the actual play date.
MITPISA
M - Marks - Are you ok with marks? If so where
I - Injuries and Illnesses - Do you have any injuries or illnesses that will prevent us from playing safely? Do you have any conditions that require attention regularly? Asthma, heart, blood pressure, pain can require medications that are relevant to interactions with others
T - Triggers, Turn offs, Tone and Time - Do you have any triggers? Hair pulling, face slapping, belts, certain words can all be triggers for people based on past experience. Turn offs, while not quite triggers, can simply pull us out of our headspace. Tone refers to how you want to be spoken to? Commanding? Caring? Sharp? Is there a way you don’t want to be spoken to? Time - how long are we each able/prepared to spend today
P - Proximity and People - How close can someone be? Can they touch you with their hands? With their whole body? How close do you want to be to someone? Do you want to touch them with your hands? With your whole body? Who else should be considered with regards to what happens?
I - Interaction and Intensity - What kind(s) of interactions would you like to have with others? How intensely do you want to be played with? How intensely do you want to play?
S - Sex, Safety, Safety Calls, Safewords, Substances and Senses - Sex is something that may or may not be part of your scene. It is important to talk about it in advance. Do we want to be sexual? If so, in what way? What about safety - precautions, testing, etc.? Once you make a decision, stick with it. You can always decide to forego sex, but never add it after the fact. Is there a safety call in place? For safe words, the Kink Collective uses Red, Yellow, Mayday and Mercy. Red means stop, Yellow means check in, Mayday is for needing help during a scene, if something goes wrong, the top should never leave the bottom. So instead, we call our “Mayday” and the dm’s can come help. Mercy is when everything is ok, and the bottom needs the top to pull back ever so slightly. Substances - have you had alcohol or any other mood or mind altering substances? If you cry, how would you like me to handle it?
A - Aftercare and Anything else - What do we each need for aftercare? Is there anything else we need to go over? Have you eaten? Gone to the bathroom?
