About Us


Cat is a facilitator, educator, event promoter and organizer, and minister-in-training. In one-on-one settings, Cat helps people gain perspective and clarity around a variety of life stressors. Her work is from the perspective of spiritual growth and development. Facilitating greater self-acceptance, problem-solving and healing, her methods allow people to get “unstuck” and reprioritize life goals. She has 20+ years of grief, trauma and recovery counseling experience, along with a deep familiarity with 12 step principles and other techniques for creating positive change. She has assisted clients with navigating pitfalls associated with addiction and codependency, coming to terms with loss, identifying and surpassing obstacles, improving relationship dynamics with the understanding that our relationship with Spirit/Divine/Universe is what ultimately heals all things.


Joshua, known as Master Joshua in the BDSM/Leather community, is a facilitator educator, event promoter and host, and Professional Dom. In one-on-one sessions, Joshua guides his clients towards self-acceptance, empowering them to gain control of and become active participants in their own lives. Drawing upon his own unique, hard-earned transformative experiences, he has developed personalized methods of NTSB (Non Traditional Sexual Behavior) counseling, geared particularly towards catalyzing self-actualization. Over the past 12+ years, this system has helped dozens to rid themselves of shame, see and embrace their identities as a whole, and live richer, better materialized lives.


7 Steps for getting unstuck in life

1) Preparation – This is the beginning. No thing in life is accomplished without proper preparation. This work is challenging, but immensely valuable. This is a deep dive into what is really going on, what is the story behind the story. I’m talking about getting past the story you have always told yourself. We know a version of our story, the one on the surface. We tell it over and over until we are sure that it is who and what we are. But if you are feeling stuck, if there are areas of your life that you feel like you can’t understand or you can’t make better, then there is a story behind the story. And when the fear of not changing becomes greater than the fear of changing, you will be prepared to move on

2) Revelation – As we look at our “story”, we realize that we are on a fact-finding mission. What is going on now? What are the areas of your life that you would like to be able to change? We will look at methods to facilitate this process that are tailored to you.

3) Observations  – Next we begin digging beneath the story. We get quiet and look at the things we tell ourselves. Things like “I don’t know how to organize my time” “I can’t figure out how to make things work” “My partner drinks too much and I don’t know what to do” “There are things I know I have to do and I can’t seem to get them done” “I would like my life to feel better than it does” “I am the way I am because I am not supported, and I never have been” “I am afraid of how I’m going to feel if things change”

4) Examination – As we become comfortable with the process of introspection, we start asking the harder questions. Go back over the things you have been looking at. By now you should also be more comfortable with the silence that comes from contemplation. Go deeper. Start asking yourself specific questions. “What do I do with my time?”

5) Discovery – The next step toward freedom is uncovering our habits. What are we doing and why? Are there things that we know we should be doing, but we find distractions? Some of these are more obvious than others. Things that can be done addictively – drinking, drugs, shopping, gambling, smoking, sex, caring for others…but what about the less obvious things – cleaning, sleeping, reading,

6) Recovery – If you have heard the phrase “codependency”, but aren’t sure what it means, there is a chance that you are struggling with one or more aspects of it, especially if your relationships aren’t what you would like them to be.

Some of the more troublesome issues are: difficulty with boundaries, taking care of others – at your expense or theirs, not being able to answer the questions, “who am I?” “what do I like?” “what do I want to do?”, agreeing to do things for others, even when you really don’t want to, can’t or don’t have the time, needing to take care of or “fix” others in order to have a sense of purpose, wanting others to do the “right” thing and trying to influence their language, dress, behavior, etc., and ultimately taking care of everyone and everything, not feeling appreciated and being mad about it.

7) Integration – We take everything you have discovered, forced yourself to confront and ultimately come to understand, and create a plan for integrating the changes in all areas of your life.

This program is customized for each person. Please contact us for evaluation and pricing

How do we get there?

NTSB (Non-Traditional Sexual Behaviors) Counseling and Therapy

Sexual inklings that deviate from social norms are a key source of shame. When properly acknowledged and explored, though, they become a key to self actualization. This exploration, which I will guide you through, will be conducted openly, cautiously and respectfully, with empathy and warmth as well as knowledge.

The counseling I offer is an amalgamation of methods, from various spheres, which I will custom tailor to you — based not on MY fixed menu of services, but on YOUR evolving needs. Our work together will be a fluid mix of the following components:


We will begin with a series of candid conversations, designed to map your current position and your trajectory. Introspective exercises, which you will do on your own and later share with me, will further inform our talks. We will develop rapport; I will come to know you, and you will come to trust me. Drawing upon what we learned, you and I will customize a course of action entailing more hands-on possibilities.


Training focuses on learning the proper use of instruments: restraints, tools for sensory stimulation/deprivation, tools for physical/sexual stimulation, etc. The safe and proficient use of these tools is an important facet of many NTSB lifestyles, but the training I speak of hones a more layered skillset. While studying each instrument, we will also be studying the sensations and emotions they provoke, how these experiences interact with you and your playpartner as a whole, how to read your play partner’s reactions and communicate your own, and how you can use each tool to express your unique desires and wants.


Cathartic Release, this is the transformational expreince that brings healing and growth. Whether you are a newcomer or a lifestyle veteran, submission — the simple act of putting yourself in the hands of a person you trust — is a powerful, sometimes transcendental, experience. Just for a while, let go of the unceasing responsibility for making decisions and carrying them out. Pass the burden on to me. In the relief that follows, you will find your senses are greatly enhanced. You will feel trust, kinship, affection and gratitude as a child does, free from worry or inhibition. There’s a lucidity to this exchange that harkens to a simpler state of being; it often yields a sense of wonder and renewal. Like I said earlier, It may resemble falling in love. But it’s just you, coming into yourself.

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