The Kink Collective was a co-creation from the remnants of a dissolved relationship. In the wake of that, I connected with Cat. Philosophically, she resonated deeply with my approach to event hosting and the approach to the lifestyle. She ran her club the same way that I ran my events. And, during that time, I was having to reflect on who I was where I was, where was my life at, and where was I going. She was engaged in the same sort of introspective work. We decided to build from there and the idea was to gather like minded folks, people who believed in the value of people. The philosophy we developed is called People Before Kink, which states that who we are comes before what we are. The people we were interested in also understood the value of service and selflessness. We knew that people have their own trials and growth to go through, but these folks demonstrated the ability to do it and became actively engaged in it, to whatever degree they could. Not only were these people actively engaged in self-reflection, but they also embraced our desire to pay it forward. In this way we created the Kink Collective as a leather family in order to provide service to the community through events and education. We hold space for each other, we hold space for others and we build community by example.
It’s not a democracy.
The philosophy, People Before Kink is the foundation of the Kink Collective. It is the purpose that governs what we do and is the formula for creating meaningful connection with ourselves and each other. It has allowed us to create space for others to just be, and then we engage in conversation from there, from equality