People Before Kink - A Weekend Intensive

PBK Weekend Intensives are 2 – 5 day spiritual retreats. Like similar retreats, they offer participants hands-on introduction to making connections with others through the lens of BDSM, along with opportunities to unwind and mingle. Unlike other similar events, they are a catalyst for personal transformation. 

What distinguishes PBK is intention. It teaches you to create safe containers and connect without agenda.  It’s meant to change your life. Learning about various aspects of our identities, exploring deep-seated desires, playing, honing skills and opening up are what’s happening on the surface.  The magic of this intensive is what’s unfolding at a deeper level. When barriers are removed, when wariness and shame are resolved and you have been fully seen, heard and validated, your true authentic self can emerge. Safety and freedom at this level awaken you to your full potential.

The PBK Weekend Retreat is not a “kink vacation”. It’s spiritual intensive, crafted for a select group. The word “intensive” is intentional. This is a deep dive into who you are, what matters to you and sharing it with like-minded others. To say that it is a lot of work is not an over-statement. However, if you are committed to personal growth, this is where you are meant to be.

Our process revolves around 5 key points. We use the acronym  ICAVS to make it easy to remember:

Introspection: This is an opportunity to dive deeper into yourself. This process cuts right into the middle of who you are and gives you knowledge and perspective of your life’s journey up until this point. Introspection at this level empowers you, through a unique process of self-awareness. Before the workshop, you will receive a package that walks you through a path of Introspection. It helps you find specific and valuable information about yourself. It also provides you with words to articulate your thoughts and feelings, something we are generally not taught. Self-knowledge is the foundation of our program.

Container: Containers create safe space to be with yourself and others. In this way, you experience seeing and being seen, hearing and being heard. We will show you how to do this. It will serve you now and for your whole life’s journey.

Actualization: As you dive deeper into who you really are, you will find you have permission to remove all the obstacles that hold you back. This process gives you the space to discover and become your true, authentic self. 

Vulnerability: Deeply meaningful connections require vulnerability. The magic of this intensive comes from the participants themselves. When people feel safe, they can be who they are and share themselves with another in a new way. We provide you the opportunity to experience this level of vulnerability. 

Safety: We provide you a safe and educational environment in which to have this immersive experience. In this judgment-free space, you will see how to create safety for yourself and others moving forward.

FAQ

  • Is participation mandatory?

Yes, for the daytime educational parts of the weekend. This entire program is built around experiencing safe space, vulnerability and connecting. We can only accomplish this by actively engaging with others. Part of the weekend involves being paired with others. So it is important that you are there for the entire event. It is, entirely, a hands-on experience. Participation in the evening events is encouraged and only to the level of play your are comfortable with. Watching others and observing scenes is participation enough if you are not ready to jump in (at least in the beginning).

  • What do I need to bring?

The introspection package, including the preliminary work you did and the lists of questions for the breakout discussions. A paper and pen will be helpful for any notes you would like to take during the day. Please show up rested, prepared and ready to deeply engage with yourself and with others. 

  • Who is the Kink Collective

The Kink-Collective is a leather family focused on BDSM lifestyle education.

For more information on the Kink-Collective please visit https://kinkcollective.net/

 

  • Who is this program for?

 

Newcomers and veterans alike. This program is especially impactful for people who are trying to understand their place in their journey and looking to self actualize. People who are willing to do the work and be vulnerable.

 

  • What if I am neurodivergent, suffer from social anxiety or have unresolved trauma?

 

This program is meant for you especially.  Neurodivergence, social anxiety and trauma are not barriers to acquiring these skills as long as you are willing to show up, take risks and stay committed to the process. And we are here to facilitate your journey, one step at a time. Lean into the process and trust that you will begin to see the magic of authenticity, both for yourself and your connections with others. 

 

  • Do I need to have experience with kink or BDSM?

 

No. Most likely you are here because you have an interest in kink or BDSM, which is how you found us. But you need nothing more than an interest, in either kink, furthering your journey of self-discovery or both.

 

 

 

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