People Before Kink: Connection

PBK Online: Connection

People Before Kink (PBK) is the working philosophy of The Kink Collective. We are who we are before what we are.

Who is this program for? – Newcomers and veterans alike. This program is especially impactful for people who are trying to understand their place in their journey and looking to self actualize. People who are willing to do the work and be vulnerable.

Our interactions with others help give our lives meaning. The sense of well-being we get from truly connecting with another is proof of that. But while we yearn for deeper connections, we don’t know how to create them. This is most painfully evident in kink settings, where we are often our most vulnerable, but interactions end up being superficial and transactional.

There is a way to make and maintain deep and meaningful connections. We will show you how.

PBK is a 5-hour online intensive. We give you the foundation for meaningful, trusting and transformative connections in all areas of your life. Though designed for various levels of experience with kink, it is NOT a 101. It allows you to find and express your true self, and create space for others to do the same. This works with people you are just meeting as well as the relationships you already have. We show you how to bring all your connections to their full potential, giving meaning and direction to your journey as well as all areas of your life.

This program was developed over decades of involvement in the BDSM/leather/fetish/kink community including many years of professional work with people. This is the kind of work that gets people to the root of their identities, as they are today. Before the workshop, you will receive a package that walks you through a path of Introspection. Introspection at this level empowers you, through a unique process of self-awareness.

When the workshop opens, there will be a meet and greet to help acquaint you with the other participants. During this workshop, there will be vital information about how to create safe containers for yourself and for others. The introspective work, in addition to the ability to create these containers, starts you on the road to self-actualization. You will be partnered with another person in progressive breakout room sessions to apply what you are learning in real time. You will experience what it is to validate others and be validated by them. All of this happens in an environment of vulnerability, safety and trust. The entire process is free of judgment and agenda. This allows you to leave the workshop with valuable skills you will have already practiced using, freeing you to integrate them in all areas of your life.

By the end of this program you’ll have a solid understanding of who you are at this point in your journey. You’ll be able to identify (insert question examples here). You’ll have experienced authentic connections, vulnerability & validation in a space built for introspective conversations. 



  • Does my camera have to be on?

As this is a live, in person event, we request that everyone leave their camera on for the entire duration of the workshop.

  • Is participation mandatory?

Yes. This entire program is built around experiencing safe space, vulnerability and connecting. We can only accomplish this by actively engaging with others. You will be paired with another in breakout rooms throughout the workshop. It is vital that you come for the entire workshop, as your participation directly impacts those you will be working with. It is, entirely, a hands-on experience.

  • What do I need to bring?

The introspection package, including the preliminary work you did and the lists of questions for the breakout rooms. A paper and pen will be helpful for any notes you would like to take. Please show up rested, prepared and ready to deeply engage with yourself and with others. 

  • Who is this program for?

Newcomers and veterans alike. This program is especially impactful for people who are trying to understand their place in their journey and looking to self actualize. People who are willing to do the work and be vulnerable.

  • What if I am neurodivergent, suffer from social anxiety or have unresolved trauma?

This program is meant for you especially.  Neurodivergence, social anxiety and trauma are not barriers to acquiring these skills as long as you are willing to show up, take risks and stay committed to the process. And we are here to facilitate your journey, one step at a time. Lean into the process and trust that you will begin to see the magic of authenticity, both for yourself and your connections with others. 

  • Do I need to have experience with kink or BDSM?

No. Most likely you are here because you have an interest in kink or BDSM, which is how you found us. But you need nothing more than an interest in furthering your journey of self-discovery.

  • Where do I sign up? 

Visit our Eventbrite page to sign up.

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