HALT I have roots in 12-step communities. I have learned life lessons, many of which are reduced down to a few letters or words. If a challenging feeling comes on, rather than dive head first into it, I think HALT and check a few things: 1 – Have I eaten? Maybe I am hungry and…
How long does it take to be open to new information? I went to college and got a degree in psychology. During my studies, I learned that it takes people, on average, 10 times of being exposed to something before they learn it. This information has been pivotal for me to understand why, when I…
Identity is the source of my anger. The lack of being seen and heard. Who is Joshua? The way I like to open that is, I’m too gay for the straights, too straight for the gays, too white for my people, and I’m not white. What I have added lately is that I am not…
As I’m seeing things now with gender and identity, it all boils down to identity. This is where I stand on gender today. My gender does matter because it is my story, my male parts, my cock. I’m proud of it, and to say I don’t want to be a man isn’t true. But I…
For the last couple of years, I’ve been on a journey, trying to establish BDSM as a form of therapy. Not just therapeutic, as in what happens in the body, but in the actual healing of trauma by reframing or reliving and then re-engaging it. That’s the therapeutic element of it. But to work up…
Suffering is essential to the experience of life. Suffering is important. We need the contrast in order to appreciate joy and love. Suffering and sacrifice are what we do to gain that, right? It’s the trade off. Now, suffering’s also important for empathy. The greater the suffering, not in comparison to others, but personally, internally,…
How I found faith I was going through photos of my then slave, Jim. He was in a posture, a slave posture. I looked at it and said to myself, “Wow, Jim has a lot of faith in me”, as in, he has faith in me to always do the right thing for him, to…
My journey into professional domination started around 10 years ago, 2013. At that time, I was doing executive protection, I believe. And I was active in the community. I had met someone on recon, I believe, or we bumped into each other at a party. As I’m trying to remember this story, I don’t remember…
My whole purpose is to help people self-actualize. I’ve walked my own journey of identity for as long as I can remember. And in my life’s journey adversity, stress, anger, sadness, all came in many different forms. What I want to do with my work is take the experience of trying to find myself, my…
I call them social-justice assholes. They’re like virtue signalers, like white guilt. White guilt is how I like to describe them. They’re so opposed to what’s happening, they have to be the loudest voice in the room and are making themselves look like assholes. Dude, it’s crazy. It’s crazy what they believe. And that’s what…
The difference between spirituality and religion I’ve had the luxury, the pleasure, of working with a Catholic priest of 40 years who has mentored me in ways and I have had the opportunity to mentor him. And through our time together, through our conversations, spirituality and religion came into focus. Well, what is that? What…
The Kink Collective was a co-creation from the remnants of a dissolved relationship. In the wake of that, I connected with Cat. Philosophically, she resonated deeply with my approach to event hosting and the approach to the lifestyle. She ran her club the same way that I ran my events. And, during that time, I…